Suffering or Strength? Jewish Perspectives on Trials and Growth
Why do good people suffer? The Torah, Gemara, Midrash and Zohar on tests, growth, and why G-d only tests us with what we can carry.
The Torah says:

(טז) הַמַּאֲכִ֨לְךָ֥ מָן֙ בַּמִּדְבָּ֔ר אֲשֶׁ֥ר לֹא־יָדְע֖וּן אֲבֹתֶ֑יךָ לְמַ֣עַן עַנֹּֽתְךָ֗ וּלְמַ֙עַן֙ נַסֹּתֶ֔ךָ לְהֵיטִֽבְךָ֖ בְּאַחֲרִיתֶֽךָ׃

(16) who fed you in the wilderness with manna, which your ancestors had never known, in order to test you by hardships only to benefit you in the end—

We all face difficult moments in life, and as people of faith, we know that everything ultimately comes from G-d. When we cry out to our Creator asking, “Why me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?”, it doesn’t mean we are denying G-d. On the contrary—asking those questions proves we acknowledge there is a “CEO” running the world, and we are simply seeking to understand His intervention in our lives.

Asking Why

Far from condemning this raw human reaction, the Sages recognize the depth of human pain during times of trial. As the Gemara notes regarding Iyov:

״[אִיּוֹב] לֹא בְדַעַת יְדַבֵּר, וּדְבָרָיו לֹא בְהַשְׂכֵּל״; וּכְתִיב: ״כִּי לֹא דִבַּרְתֶּם אֵלַי נְכוֹנָה כְּעַבְדִּי אִיּוֹב״! אָמַר רָבָא: מִכָּאן שֶׁאֵין אָדָם נִתְפָּס בִּשְׁעַת צַעֲרוֹ.

The Gemara comments: On the one hand, the text states: “Job has spoken without knowledge, and his words were without wisdom” (Job 34:35). But on the other hand, it is written with regard to Job’s friends: “You have not spoken of Me the thing that is right, like my servant Job” (Job 42:8). Rava said: From here it may be inferred that a person is not held responsible for what he says when he is in distress. Although Job uttered certain words that were wrong and inappropriate, he was not punished for them because he said them at a time of pain and hardship.

Why Suffering Exists

So, we learn that asking questions out of pain is not a transgression. Now that Rava has given validity to our emotional response, let us ask a more fundamental question: Why must there be suffering at all? Surprisingly, the Midrash teaches us that suffering was actually a requested experience. It was Yitzchak Avinu who first asked that man should endure suffering in this world:

(ט) יִצְחָק תָּבַע יִסּוּרִין...

(9) Yitzchak Avinu asked that man should endure suffering

He wasn't asking for pain for its own sake. Suffering is what cleanses a person:

יִסּוּרִין מְמָרְקִין כׇּל עֲוֹנוֹתָיו שֶׁל אָדָם.

Suffering cleanses a person’s transgressions, purifying him for a more sublime existence.

To understand why Yitzchak Avinu would ask for suffering, we first have to acknowledge the reality of the human condition: the fact that every person inevitably transgresses at some point in their life.

(כ) כִּ֣י אָדָ֔ם אֵ֥ין צַדִּ֖יק בָּאָ֑רֶץ אֲשֶׁ֥ר יַעֲשֶׂה־טּ֖וֹב וְלֹ֥א יֶחֱטָֽא׃

(20) For there is not one good person on earth who does what is best and doesn’t err.

Because human error is inevitable, suffering naturally follows as part of the human experience:

(א) אֵין לְךָ אָדָם בְּלֹא יִסּוּרִים...

(1)You have no man without suffering...

With this perspective in mind, the following Talmudic passage becomes much clearer:

אָמַר רַב אַמֵּי: אֵין מִיתָה בְּלֹא חֵטְא, וְאֵין יִסּוּרִין בְּלֹא עָוֹן.

The Gemara continues its discussion of punishment in general and the relationship between a person’s actions and the punishments meted out against him in particular: Rav Ami said: There is no death without sin; were a person not to sin, he would not die. And there is no suffering without iniquity.

This means that if a person had never stumbled, they wouldn't have been subject to the kind of suffering we typically think of. Of course, they would still face tests or challenges—but these would serve a different purpose:

(כו) נִמְצֵינוּ לְמֵדִים, כִּי עִקַּר מְצִיאוּת הָאָדָם בָּעוֹלָם הַזֶּה הוּא רַק לְקַיֵּם מִצְווֹת וְלַעֲבֹד וְלַעֲמֹד בַּנִּסָּיוֹן

(26) To summarize what we have learned, the primary [purpose] of man's existence in this world is solely to fulfill the commandments, serve [G-d] and stand up to trials.

Not every hardship is a נִסָּיוֹן, test. Anything that causes physical discomfort, emotional pain, or mental anguish counts as suffering (See This Too Is For The Best by Rabbi Yerachmiel Moskoff, pages 38–40). Still, יִסּוּרִים, afflictions, don't always mean the person himself did something wrong. Sometimes a tzaddik suffers for the sins of his generation:

בִּזְמַן שֶׁהַצַּדִּיקִים בַּדּוֹר — צַדִּיקִים נִתְפָּסִים עַל הַדּוֹר, אֵין צַדִּיקִים בַּדּוֹר — תִּינוֹקוֹת שֶׁל בֵּית רַבָּן נִתְפָּסִים עַל הַדּוֹר.

At a time when there are righteous people in the generation, the righteous are seized, i.e., they die or suffer, for the sins of the generation. If there are no righteous people in the generation, school children, who are also without sin, are seized for the sins of the generation.

Generally, the rule remains: suffering serves as an atonement for sin. However, we are also taught that there are exceptions—such as when a righteous person suffers for the sins of his ancestors:

אָמַר לְפָנָיו: רִבּוֹנוֹ שֶׁל עוֹלָם! מִפְּנֵי מָה יֵשׁ צַדִּיק וְטוֹב לוֹ, וְיֵשׁ צַדִּיק וְרַע לוֹ, יֵשׁ רָשָׁע וְטוֹב לוֹ, וְיֵשׁ רָשָׁע וְרַע לוֹ? אָמַר לוֹ: מֹשֶׁה, צַדִּיק וְטוֹב לוֹ — צַדִּיק בֶּן צַדִּיק. צַדִּיק וְרַע לוֹ — צַדִּיק בֶּן רָשָׁע. רָשָׁע וְטוֹב לוֹ — רָשָׁע בֶּן צַדִּיק. רָשָׁע וְרַע לוֹ — רָשָׁע בֶּן רָשָׁע.

Moses said before G-d: Master of the Universe. Why is it that the righteous prosper, the righteous suffer, the wicked prosper, the wicked suffer?
G-d said to him: Moses, the righteous person who prospers is a righteous person, the son of a righteous person, who is rewarded for the actions of his ancestors. The righteous person who suffers is a righteous person, the son of a wicked person, who is punished for the transgressions of his ancestors. The wicked person who prospers is a wicked person, the son of a righteous person, who is rewarded for the actions of his ancestors. The wicked person who suffers is a wicked person, the son of a wicked person, who is punished for the transgressions of his ancestors.

Rabbi Shmuel Eliezer Edels explains these categories another way:

צדיק ורע לו צדיק שאינו גמור כו'. ועל כן רע לו על מיעוט עונותיו כדי לזכותו בעה"ב ובהיפך ברשע שאינו גמור שטוב לו בעוה"ז כדי שיקבל שכרו על מיעוט זכיותיו ולטרדו בעולם הבא כמו שאמרנו ומשלם לשונאיו על פניו ועיין בזה במפרשים:

‘A righteous person who suffers’ refers to a righteous person who is not completely righteous. Therefore, he suffers because of his few sins, in order to cleanse him and grant him a share in the World to Come.

Conversely, a wicked person who prospers refers to a wicked person who is not completely wicked. Therefore, it is טוב לו בעוה"ז, good for him in this world, so that he may receive his reward for his few merits and then be driven away from the World to Come, as we said: ‘He repays those who hate Him to their face.’ See the commentators on this.

To clarify the meaning of this concept, Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki explains:

(א)ומשלם לשנאיו אל פניו. בְּחַיָּיו מְשַׁלֵּם לוֹ גְמוּלוֹ הַטּוֹב, כְּדֵי לְהַאֲבִידוֹ מִן הָעוֹלָם הַבָּא:

(1) ומשלם לשנאיו אל פניו AND HE REPAYETH THEM THAT HATE HIM TO THEIR FACE [IN ORDER TO MAKE THEM PERISH] — i.e. during their lifetime (cf. Rashi on Genesis 11:28 s. v. על פני) he repayeth them their good recompense, in order to banish them from the future world (cf. Onkelos).

So, the 'easy street' life of a wicked person is nothing to be envious of. On the contrary, the difficult life of a righteous person is a sign of his elevated status in the 'eyes' of G-d. This leads us to a deeper question: does this suffering stem from G-d's מִדַּת הָרַחֲמִים, attribute of mercy, or מִדַּת הַדִּין, attribute of justice? To answer that, we first need to know where it comes from. It starts with the יֵצֶר הָרָע, which the Sages call a wound, with Torah as its cure:

כָּךְ הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא אָמַר לָהֶם לְיִשְׂרָאֵל: בָּנַי, בָּרָאתִי יֵצֶר הָרָע וּבָרָאתִי לוֹ תּוֹרָה תַּבְלִין. וְאִם אַתֶּם עוֹסְקִים בַּתּוֹרָה – אֵין אַתֶּם נִמְסָרִים בְּיָדוֹ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״הֲלוֹא אִם תֵּיטִיב שְׂאֵת״,

So too the Holy One, Blessed be He, said to Israel: My children, I created an evil inclination, which is the wound, and I created Torah as its antidote. If you are engaged in Torah study you will not be given over into the hand of the evil inclination, as it is stated: “If you do well, shall it not be lifted up?” (Genesis 4:7). One who engages in Torah study lifts himself above the evil inclination.

Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish says the יֵצֶר הָרָע is also the Satan and the Angel of Death:

אָמַר רֵישׁ לָקִישׁ: הוּא שָׂטָן, הוּא יֵצֶר הָרָע, הוּא מַלְאַךְ הַמָּוֶת. הוּא שָׂטָן – דִּכְתִיב: ״וַיֵּצֵא הַשָּׂטָן מֵאֵת פְּנֵי ה׳״. הוּא יֵצֶר הָרָע – כְּתִיב הָתָם: ״רַק רַע כׇּל הַיּוֹם״, וּכְתִיב הָכָא: (״רַק אֶת נַפְשׁוֹ שְׁמֹר״) [״רַק אֵלָיו אַל תִּשְׁלַח יָדֶךָ״]. הוּא מַלְאַךְ הַמָּוֶת – דִּכְתִיב: ״(רַק) [אַךְ] אֶת נַפְשׁוֹ שְׁמֹר״ – אַלְמָא בְּדִידֵיהּ קָיְימָא.

Reish Lakish says: Satan, the evil inclination, and the Angel of Death are one, that is, they are three aspects of the same essence. He is the Satan who seduces people and then accuses them, as it is written: “So the Satan went forth from the presence of the L-rd, and smote Job with vile sores” (Job 2:7). He is also the evil inclination, as it is written there: “The impulse of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continuously” (Genesis 6:5); and it is written here: “Only upon himself do not put forth your hand” (Job 1:12). The verbal analogy between the various uses of the word “only” teaches that the evil inclination is to be identified with the Satan. He is also the Angel of Death, as it is written: “Only spare his life” (Job 2:6); apparently Job’s life depends upon him, the Satan, and accordingly the Satan must also be the Angel of Death.

The Sages teach the details of how this process unfolds in practice:

בְּמַתְנִיתָא תָּנָא: יוֹרֵד וּמַתְעֶה, וְעוֹלֶה וּמַרְגִּיז, נוֹטֵל רְשׁוּת, וְנוֹטֵל נְשָׁמָה.

It was taught in a baraita with regard to the methods of the Satan: He descends to this world and misleads a person into sinning. He then ascends to Heaven, levels accusations against that very sinner, and inflames G-d’s anger against him. He then receives permission to act and takes away the sinner’s soul as punishment.

Simply put, the prosecutor brings a person’s transgressions before G-d and argues for justice to be served. If those actions outweigh their merits, G-d allows that prosecution to move forward. Of course, many other factors influence a Heavenly court case that are beyond our current scope—but it seems clear that יִסּוּרִים are a direct result of מִדַּת הַדִּין. This sense of justice brings about both atonement and purification.
Nonetheless, we shouldn't view suffering as merely a cleansing process. Rabbi Chayim of Volozhin says that the purpose of a Heavenly punishment is not to take revenge for wrongdoing. Rather, it helps instruct the sinner by exposing the sin he committed. It helps him more easily to determine which misdeeds he has committed that made it suitable for him to receive this punishment and this makes it easier for him to correct himself. He can contemplate why a particular form of suffering came upon him, analyze the situation and hopefully realize the connection between the punishment and the earlier sin and thus come back to G-d (see Healing Anger by Rabbi Dr. Yitzchak Benarrosh, page 253, Adir Press).

Earning Mercy

We now realize that יִסּוּרִים are an aid in refining our character, alongside their role in atonement. Yet, they are still born from מִדַּת הַדִּין. This raises a vital question: Is there any way to merit being dealt with through G-d's מִדַּת הָרַחֲמִים instead? The Talmud reveals that the answer lies in how we treat others:

רָבָא אָמַר: כׇּל הַמַּעֲבִיר עַל מִדּוֹתָיו — מַעֲבִירִין לוֹ עַל כׇּל פְּשָׁעָיו, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״נוֹשֵׂא עָוֹן וְעוֹבֵר עַל פֶּשַׁע״. לְמִי נוֹשֵׂא עָוֹן — לְמִי שֶׁעוֹבֵר עַל פֶּשַׁע.

Rava understood this verse differently and said: With regard to whoever forgoes his reckonings with others for injustices done to him, the heavenly court in turn forgoes punishment for all his sins, as it is stated: “He bears sin and forgives transgression” (Micah 7:18). Whose sins does He bear? The sins of one who forgoes his reckonings with others for injustices committed against him.

Clarifying the deeper meaning of this concept, Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki explains:

המעביר על מדותיו - שאינו מדקדק למדוד מדה למצערים אותו ומניח מדותיו והולך לו כמו אין מעבירין על המצות (יומא דף לג.) אין מעבירין על האוכלין (עירובין דף סד:) מניחן והולך לו:

‘One who forgoes his measure’ — כלומר, someone who does not insist on precisely measuring out punishment or retaliation against those who upset him, but instead lets go of his own claim and walks away. This is like the principle ‘one does not pass over commandments’ (Yoma 33a) and ‘one does not pass over food’ (Eruvin 64b): one leaves it and moves on.

Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki further explains the Heavenly response:

מעבירין לו על כל פשעיו - אין מדת הדין מדקדקת אחריהן אלא מנחתן והולכת:

His transgressions are overlooked for him — the attribute of justice does not scrutinize them, but rather leaves them and goes on.

Reflecting this same principle of measure for measure, it is taught:

כׇּל הַמְרַחֵם עַל הַבְּרִיּוֹת — מְרַחֲמִין עָלָיו מִן הַשָּׁמַיִם...

Anyone who has compassion for G-d’s creatures will receive compassion from Heaven...

Following this same principle of heavenly response, the Sages further teach:

תָּנוּ רַבָּנַן: הַדָּן חֲבֵירוֹ לְכַף זְכוּת — דָּנִין אוֹתוֹ לִזְכוּת.

The Sages taught in a baraita: One who judges another favorably is himself judged favorably.

We now see that through these actions, we can merit being guided by G-d’s מִדַּת הָרַחֲמִים, attribute of mercy, rather than His מִדַּת הַדִּין, attribute of justice. Since the Midrash teaches us that some form of affliction is an inevitable part of life, we are led to a profound question: What are the "best afflictions" for a person to endure? Rabbi Moshe Cordovero addresses this exact question:

(כ) וְיֹאמַר, מַה הֵם הַיִּסּוּרִין הַיּוֹתֵר טוֹבִים שֶׁבָּעוֹלָם שֶׁלֹּא יַטְרִידוּנִי מֵעֲבוֹדַת ה', אֵין חָבִיב בְּכֻלָּם מֵאֵלּוּ שֶׁיְּחָרְפוּהוּ וִיבַזֻּהוּ וִיגַדְּפֻהוּ, שֶׁהֲרֵי לֹא יִמְנְעוּ מִמֶּנּוּ כֹּחוֹ וְאֹנוֹ בָּחֳלָאִים, וְלֹא יִמְנְעוּ אֲכִילָתוֹ וּמַלְבּוּשׁוֹ...

(20) And he [should] say, "What are the best afflictions in the world, which will not disturb me from the service of G-d?" There is nothing more beloved in all of them than that they should curse him, and disgrace him and condemn him. As behold, they do not prevent him from his strength and vitality with sicknesses; and they do not prevent his eating and his clothing...

This may be why, as we conclude our tefillah with אלקי נצור, we actually pray for this form of יִסּוּרִים. We ask G-d to “let my soul be silent to those who curse me,” and that our “soul be like dust to everyone.” There's another side to it, too. The Mishnah in Avot counts accepting suffering as one of the ways Torah is acquired:

(ו) וְהַתּוֹרָה נִקְנֵית בְּאַרְבָּעִים וּשְׁמֹנָה דְבָרִים. וְאֵלוּ הֵן... וּבְקַבָּלַת הַיִּסּוּרִין...

(6) The Torah by forty-eight things... By acceptance of suffering. [Learning of Torah is also acquired by one]...

Torah Through Struggle

This requirement to endure hardship in Torah study is embodied by none other than Moshe Rabbeinu:

וְאָמַר רַבִּי יוֹחָנָן: בַּתְּחִלָּה הָיָה מֹשֶׁה לָמֵד תּוֹרָה וּמְשַׁכְּחָה, עַד שֶׁנִּיתְּנָה לוֹ בְּמַתָּנָה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״וַיִּתֵּן אֶל מֹשֶׁה כְּכַלֹּתוֹ לְדַבֵּר אִתּוֹ״.

And Rabbi Yoḥanan said: Initially, Moses would study Torah and forget it, until it was given to him as a gift, as it is stated: “And He gave it to Moses when he concluded speaking with him” (Exodus 31:18). Once the Torah was given him as a gift, it became his and he was able to remember it.

The Yerushalmi tells it the same way, and adds that this went on all forty days:

הלכה: אָמַר רִבִּי יוֹחָנָן. כָּל אוֹתָן אַרְבְּעִים יוֹם שֶׁעָשָׂה מֹשֶׁה בָהָר הָיָה לָמֵד תּוֹרָה וּמְשַׁכְּחָהּ. וּבְסוֹף נִתְּנָה לוֹ בְּמַתָּנָה.

HALAKHAH: Rebbi Joḥanan said, all these 40 days which Moses spent on the Mountain, he studied Torah and forgot it. At the end it was given to him as a gift.

Imagine what that was like for Moshe Rabbeinu: learning day after day, only to have it slip away. Most of us would fall apart. That is what acquiring Torah through suffering looks like. It wasn't only Moshe, either. Rabbi Shimon ben Yoḥai teaches that this is how all of Klal Yisrael received its greatest gifts:

תַּנְיָא, רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן יוֹחַאי אוֹמֵר: שָׁלֹשׁ מַתָּנוֹת טוֹבוֹת נָתַן הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא לְיִשְׂרָאֵל, וְכוּלָּן לֹא נְתָנָן אֶלָּא עַל יְדֵי יִסּוּרִין, אֵלּוּ הֵן: תּוֹרָה...

Additionally, it was taught in a baraita with regard to affliction: Rabbi Shimon ben Yoḥai says: The Holy One, Blessed be He, gave Israel three precious gifts, all of which were given only by means of suffering, which purified Israel so that they may merit to receive them. These gifts are: Torah...

Rabbi Shmuel Eliezer Edels explains why these gifts could only come through suffering:

ג' מתנות טובות כו'. תורה ניתנה ע"י יסורין כי תענוגי עוה"ז הם ביטול התורה...

Torah was given through suffering, because the pleasures of this world interfere with Torah study...

On the same daf, though, Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish seems to say the opposite, that Torah study keeps suffering away:

אָמַר רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן לָקִישׁ: כׇּל הָעוֹסֵק בַּתּוֹרָה — יִסּוּרִין בְּדֵילִין הֵימֶנּוּ...

Regarding this unclear verse, Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish said: If one engages in Torah study, suffering stays away from him...

So the struggle that comes with learning is the price of Torah, and the Torah then shields a person from other suffering. But when suffering does come, how is a person meant to respond? The Gemara says not to just sit through it, but to look at our own actions:

אָמַר רָבָא, וְאִיתֵּימָא רַב חִסְדָּא: אִם רוֹאֶה אָדָם שֶׁיִּסּוּרִין בָּאִין עָלָיו — יְפַשְׁפֵּשׁ בְּמַעֲשָׂיו, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״נַחְפְּשָׂה דְרָכֵינוּ וְנַחְקֹרָה וְנָשׁוּבָה עַד ה׳״. פִּשְׁפֵּשׁ וְלֹא מָצָא — יִתְלֶה בְּבִטּוּל תּוֹרָה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״אַשְׁרֵי הַגֶּבֶר אֲשֶׁר תְּיַסְּרֶנּוּ יָּהּ וּמִתּוֹרָתְךָ תְלַמְּדֶנּוּ״.

Rava, and some say Rav Ḥisda, said: If a person sees that suffering has befallen him, he should examine his actions. Generally, suffering comes about as punishment for one’s transgressions...

When No Reason Is Found

While suffering often relates to our actions, what happens when an honest search yields no obvious answers? The Gemara addresses this next step directly:

פִּשְׁפֵּשׁ וְלֹא מָצָא — יִתְלֶה בְּבִטּוּל תּוֹרָה...

If he examined his ways and found no transgression for which that suffering is appropriate, he may attribute his suffering to dereliction in the study of Torah. G-d punishes an individual for dereliction in the study of Torah in order to emphasize the gravity of the issue.

Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki explains what 'examined and did not find' means:

פשפש ולא מצא – לא מצא עבירה בידו שבשבילה ראוין יסורין הללו לבא:

He examined and did not find - he did not find a transgression that corresponded to all of this suffering.

This returns us to the idea of suffering as a form of instruction—a way to awaken a person and urge them to deepen their commitment to Torah study. But what is the true spiritual status of someone who experiences hardship through this lens? The Midrash offers a startling perspective:

(א) אַשְׁרָיו לְאָדָם שֶׁיִּסּוּרִים בָּאִים עָלָיו מִן הַתּוֹרָה...

(1)Happy is the man whom suffering befalls through the Torah...

King David says the same from his own life:

(צב) לוּלֵ֣י ת֭וֹרָתְךָ שַׁעֲשֻׁעָ֑י אָ֝֗ז אָבַ֥דְתִּי בְעׇנְיִֽי׃

(92)Were not Your teaching my delight, I would have perished in my affliction.

Tests and Greatness

So far, we have seen that יִסּוּרִים serve several purposes: as atonement, as instruction for improvement, or as a preparation to merit Torah and other spiritual heights. But we must also realize that יִסּוּרִים may simply be a נִסָּיוֹן—a test designed to help a person rise to even greater levels of perfection and greatness. The Midrash says this is how G-d prepares a person for greatness:

(ג) אֵין הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא נוֹתֵן גְּדֻלָּה לָאָדָם עַד שֶׁבּוֹדְקֵהוּ בְּדָבָר קָטָן, וְאַחַר כָּךְ מַעֲלֵהוּ לִגְדֻלָּה...

(3) The Holy One blessed be He does not bestow greatness upon a person until He tests them with a minor matter, and only then does He elevate him to prominence.

Tanchuma says it almost word for word:

(א) אֵין הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא נוֹתֵן גְּדֻלָּה לָאָדָם עַד שֶׁבּוֹדְקוֹ בְּדָבָר קָטָן וְאַחַר כָּךְ הוּא מַעֲלֵהוּ לִגְדֻלָּה.

(1)The Holy One, blessed be He, does not confer greatness upon a man until He tests him in lesser things.

G-d doesn't test a person unfairly. As the Gemara says:

שֶׁאֵין הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא בָּא בִּטְרוּנְיָא עִם בְּרִיּוֹתָיו...

The Holy One, Blessed be He, does not deal tyrannically [beteruneya] with His creations, but wants them to feel that they have been judged fairly.

The Midrash takes it one step further. G-d only asks of us what we can actually carry:

(א) שֶׁאֵין הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא בָּא בְּטַרְחוּת עִם בְּרִיּוֹתָיו, לֹא בָּא עַל הָאָדָם אֶלָּא לְפִי כֹּחוֹ...

(1) The Holy One blessed be He does not overly exert His creations; He engages a person only in accordance with his strength...

If every test is fair and fits what we can handle, then it's on us to give it everything we have. King Solomon says in Kohelet:

(י) כֹּ֠ל אֲשֶׁ֨ר תִּמְצָ֧א יָֽדְךָ֛ לַעֲשׂ֥וֹת בְּכֹחֲךָ֖ עֲשֵׂ֑ה...

(10) Whatever it is in your power to do, do with all your might. For there is no action, no reasoning, no learning, no wisdom in Sheol, where you are going.

Rabbi Shlomo Yitzchaki explains what 'whatever is in your power to do' is talking about:

(א)כֹּל אֲשֶׁר תִּמְצָא יָדְךָ לַעֲשׂוֹת. רְצוֹן קוֹנְךָ בְּעוֹד שֶׁאַתָּה בְכֹחֲךָ, עֲשֵׂה:

(1)Whatever you are able to do. The will of your Maker— as long as you have your strength—do.

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This ongoing process of divine testing is captured in the Midrash:

(א) נָתַתָּה לִּירֵאֶיךָ נֵס לְהִתְנוֹסֵס מִפְּנֵי קשֶׁט סֶלָּה, נִסָּיוֹן אַחַר נִסָּיוֹן, וְגִדּוּלִין אַחַר גִּדּוּלִין, בִּשְׁבִיל לְנַסּוֹתָן בָּעוֹלָם, בִּשְׁבִיל לְגַדְּלָן בָּעוֹלָם, כַּנֵּס הַזֶּה שֶׁל סְפִינָה.

(1) (Psalms 60:6) – test [nisayon] after test, elevation after elevation, in order to test them in [the eyes of] the world, and in order to exalt them in [the eyes of] the world, like an ensign [nes] on a ship.

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This outward elevation points to a deeper internal reality, as Rabbi Tzadok HaKohen of Lublin writes:

(א) ‏[קנד] כשם שצריך אדם להאמין בהש"י כך צריך אח"כ להאמין בעצמו. ר"ל שיש להש"י עסק עמו ‏ושאיננו פועל בטל שבין לילה כו' וכחיתו שדה שלאחר מיתתם נאבדו ואינם. רק צריך להאמין כי ‏נפשו ממקור החיים ית"ש והש"י מתענג ומשתעשע בה כשעושת רצונו. וזה פי' ויאמינו ביקוק ובמשה ‏עבדו פי' משה...

(1) Just as person is required to believe in G-d, so too is he afterwards required to believe in himself. I mean to say that [one must believe] that G-d has dealings with him, and that he is not a creation of G-d which is 'only for today, etc.,' an like 'an animal of the field' that after their death are gone and no longer. Rather one must believe that G-d, may He be blessed, delights and revels in his doing His will. And this is the understanding of, "and they trusted/believed in the L-rd and in Moshe His servant" (Exodus 14:31).

Rabbi Yehuda Heimowitz and Rabbi Shai Markowitz write, “Tests and challenges are not an unfortunate fact of life, but a sign of Hashem’s trust and confidence in our ability to prevail” (The Six Constant Mitzvos, pages 146-147; see also The Aryeh Kaplan Reader by Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan zt”l, page 156).
In the words of Rabbi Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg:
“Serving the Almighty properly involves constant challenges, which take consistency and persistence to succeed… only fools give up hope” (Rav Scheinberg by Rabbi Yechiel Spero, page 261, ArtScroll Mesorah Publications).
This call for unyielding, day-by-day persistence is personified by Avraham Avinu, whom the Zohar describes as working tirelessly to ascend spiritually throughout his life:

(ב) תָּא חֲזֵי, אַבְרָהָם אִתְקְרִיב לְגַבֵּיהּ וְתִאוּבְתֵּיהּ דִּילֵיהּ הֲוָה כָּל יוֹמוֹי בְּהַאי, וְלָא אִתְקְרִיב אַבְרָהָם בְּיוֹמָא חָדָא אוֹ בְּזִמְנָא חָדָא, אֶלָּא עוֹבָדוֹי קְרִיבוּ לֵיהּ בְּכָל יוֹמוֹי מִדַּרְגָּא לְדַרְגָּא, עַד דְּאִסְתַּלַק בְּדַרְגּוֹי.

(2) Observe how Abraham strove to come nearer and nearer to Him, making Him the object of his longing the whole of his days. Not just one day, or just every now and then, but by his works advancing day by day from grade to grade, until he rose, when he was old, to the higher grades proper to him.

Growth like that doesn't come from an easy life. The Zohar says real light only comes out of darkness:

(ה) וְתוּ דְּלָא מִתְיַשְּׁבָן מִלֵּי דְּאוֹרַיְיתָא, אֶלָּא תַּמָּן. דְּלֵית נְהוֹרָא אֶלָּא הַהוּא דְּנָפִיק מִגּוֹ חֲשׁוֹכָא, דְּכַד אִתְכַּפְיָא סִטְרָא דָּא, אִסְתַּלָּק קוּדְשָׁא בְּרִיךְ הוּא לְעֵילָּא, וְאִתְיָיקָּר בִּיקָרֵיהּ. וְלֵית פּוּלְחָנָא דְּקוּדְשָׁא בְּרִיךְ הוּא, אֶלָּא מִגּוֹ חֲשׁוֹכָא, וְלֵית טוּבָא אֶלָּא מִגּוֹ בִּישָׁא. וְכַד עָאל בַּר נָשׁ בְּאוֹרַח בִּישָׁא, וְשָׁבִיק לֵיהּ, כְּדֵין אִסְתַּלָּק קוּדְשָׁא בְּרִיךְ הוּא בִּיקָרֵיהּ, וְעַל דָּא שְׁלִימוּ דְּכֹלָּא טוֹב וָרָע כַּחֲדָא, וּלְאִסְתַּלְּקָא לְבָתַר בְּטוֹב, וְלֵית טוֹב אֶלָּא הַהוּא דְּנָפַק מִגּוֹ בִּישָׁא. וּבְהַאי טוֹב, אִסְתַּלָּק יְקָרֵיהּ, וְדָא אִיהוּ פּוּלְחָנָא שְׁלִים.

(5) Besides, the words of the Torah can best sink into the soul there in the desert, for there is no light except that which issues from darkness, for when that “other side” is subdued the Holy One is exalted in glory. In fact, there can be no true worship except it issue forth from darkness, and no true good except it proceed from evil. And when a man enters upon an evil way and then forsakes it the Holy One is exalted in glory. Hence the perfection of all things is attained when good and evil are first of all commingled, and then become all good, for there is no good so perfect as that which issues out of evil. The divine Glory is extolled and extended thereby, and therein lies the essence of perfect worship.

Listen: “Keep Climbing” by Avraham Fried and “Challenge” by Chayala Neuhaus.

Our Charge

Understanding that true light only emerges from darkness, our charge is clear:
Let us embrace our נִסְיוֹנוֹת and work to overcome them. In this merit, may G-d raise a נֵס—a banner—to gather our exiles. When the nations see that it is He who brings us together, the greatness of His Name will be revealed and sanctified throughout the entire world!
To close: “Warrior” by Shalsheles Junior.