On Not Knowing
The ability to acknowledge when we do not know is even greater than the ability to always know. Rabba Sara Hurwitz highlights when Moshe and Rashi stated plainly that they did not know, and the humility it requires. Read it on the website here: https://tinyurl.com/onmobmental
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18 Sivan 5775 | June 5, 2015

Parshat Beha'alotekha

Rabba Sara Hurwitz

President and Co-Founder

It is challenging for people to admit ignorance. “I don’t know” is often the most difficult and vulnerable answer that one can give. And yet, Moshe Rabbeinu models, almost effortlessly, the value of not knowing.

There are at least three times where Moshe is asked a questions and he does not know. In our parsha, Beha’alotcha, there are a group of men who became tamei (contaminated) by a dead body and were not permitted to bring the korban pesach on the right day—the 14th of Nissan. They ask:

לָ֣מָּה נִגָּרַ֗ע לְבִלְתִּ֨י הַקְרִ֜יב אֶת־קׇרְבַּ֤ן יקוק בְּמֹ֣עֲד֔וֹ בְּת֖וֹךְ בְּנֵ֥י יִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃

Why should we be excluded so as not to bring the offering of the Lord in its appointed time, with all the children of Israel?

Moshe responds:

עִמְד֣וּ וְאֶשְׁמְעָ֔ה מַה־יְצַוֶּ֥ה יקוק לָכֶֽם׃

Wait, and I will hear what God instructs concerning you.

Moshe had the humility to admit that he did not know. There are two more times in the book of Bamidbar when Moses had to turn to God to provide an answer. In the episode of the mekoshesh - the man who gathered sticks on Shabbat - the accused was brought to Moshe, and he had to turn to God for guidance (Bamidbar 15:34). And, when B’not Zlophchad requested that they inherit their deceased father’s land, there too, the Torah says that Moshe

(ה) וַיַּקְרֵ֥ב מֹשֶׁ֛ה אֶת־מִשְׁפָּטָ֖ן לִפְנֵ֥י יקוק׃ {פ}

brought their claim before God.

Lack of knowledge can be interpreted as weakness and even stupidity. However, Moshe’s ability to admit ignorance gives us permission to do the same. If Moshe, who experienced the highest level of prophecy, who engaged with God panim-el-panim (face to face), could model lack of knowledge, how much more so should each of us, in our humanness, admit “I don’t know.”

Even Rashi, who elucidates almost every pasuk of the Torah and explains the pilpul (analysis) of the Talmud, had the humility to say “I don’t know.” Towards the end of the story of Yaakov and Esiav, the Torah repeats that Rivka is “the mother of Yaakov and Eisav” (Beresihit 28:5). Rashi, in trying to explain the repetitious information exclaims:

(א) אם יעקב ועשו. אֵינִי יוֹדֵעַ מַה מְּלַמְּדֵנוּ:

I do not know what this teaches us.

It’s hard to imagine how difficult these simple words must have been for one of the greatest teachers of Torah to admit. And yet, Rashi is modeling an entirely human trait. We cannot know everything.

In fact, when Yehoshua Ben Nun is unable to admit vulnerability and show that scholars and leaders alike may not know everything, he is immediately punished. The Gemara (Temurah 16a) imagines the dialogue between Teacher and student, Moshe and Yehoshua, just as Moshe is about to depart from this world. Moshe turns to his student and says; “Ask me concerning all the doubts you have.” Yehoshua responds: “My Master, have I left you for even one hour and gone elsewhere?” In other words, Yeshoshua suggests that there is nothing that he doesn’t know. Everything that Moshe has learned, he has learned. All halakhot are crystal clear. The Gemara goes on to say that immediately, Moshe passed away, and Yehoshua forgot “three hundred laws and there arose in his mind seven hundred doubts concerning the law.” What a lost opportunity. If Yehoshua had submitted to the humanness of not knowing, how much more would he have ultimately been able to learn?

The ability to say ,“I don’t know” is immeasurably greater than the fear of humiliation. When a person candidly admits his lack of knowledge, he presents himself as a person whose words can be trusted, since when he does not know something, he is not afraid to admit it. When we admit that we don’t know, we convey a lack of arrogance.

And yet, even though Moshe and Rashi both exhibited the ability to admit ignorance, the humanness of not knowing is hard to profess. And so, as the Gemara advises, we must proactively:

דְּאָמַר מָר: לַמֵּד לְשׁוֹנְךָ לוֹמַר ״אֵינִי יוֹדֵעַ״

Teach your tongue to say I do not know!

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