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(כ) וַיְהִ֤י יִצְחָק֙ בֶּן־אַרְבָּעִ֣ים שָׁנָ֔ה בְּקַחְתּ֣וֹ אֶת־רִבְקָ֗ה בַּת־בְּתוּאֵל֙ הָֽאֲרַמִּ֔י מִפַּדַּ֖ן אֲרָ֑ם אֲח֛וֹת לָבָ֥ן הָאֲרַמִּ֖י ל֥וֹ לְאִשָּֽׁה׃ (כא) וַיֶּעְתַּ֨ר יִצְחָ֤ק לַֽיהֹוָה֙ לְנֹ֣כַח אִשְׁתּ֔וֹ כִּ֥י עֲקָרָ֖ה הִ֑וא וַיֵּעָ֤תֶר לוֹ֙ יְהֹוָ֔ה וַתַּ֖הַר רִבְקָ֥ה אִשְׁתּֽוֹ׃ (כב)וַיִּתְרֹֽצְצ֤וּ הַבָּנִים֙ בְּקִרְבָּ֔הּ וַתֹּ֣אמֶר אִם־כֵּ֔ן לָ֥מָּה זֶּ֖ה אָנֹ֑כִי וַתֵּ֖לֶךְ לִדְרֹ֥שׁ אֶת־יְהֹוָֽה׃ (כג) וַיֹּ֨אמֶר יְהֹוָ֜ה לָ֗הּ שְׁנֵ֤י (גיים)[גוֹיִם֙] בְּבִטְנֵ֔ךְ וּשְׁנֵ֣י לְאֻמִּ֔ים מִמֵּעַ֖יִךְ יִפָּרֵ֑דוּ וּלְאֹם֙ מִלְאֹ֣ם יֶֽאֱמָ֔ץ וְרַ֖ב יַעֲבֹ֥ד צָעִֽיר׃ (כד) וַיִּמְלְא֥וּ יָמֶ֖יהָ לָלֶ֑דֶת וְהִנֵּ֥ה תוֹמִ֖ם בְּבִטְנָֽהּ׃ (כה) וַיֵּצֵ֤א הָרִאשׁוֹן֙ אַדְמוֹנִ֔י כֻּלּ֖וֹ כְּאַדֶּ֣רֶת שֵׂעָ֑ר וַיִּקְרְא֥וּ שְׁמ֖וֹ עֵשָֽׂו׃ (כו) וְאַֽחֲרֵי־כֵ֞ן יָצָ֣א אָחִ֗יו וְיָד֤וֹ אֹחֶ֙זֶת֙ בַּעֲקֵ֣ב עֵשָׂ֔ו וַיִּקְרָ֥א שְׁמ֖וֹ יַעֲקֹ֑ב וְיִצְחָ֛ק בֶּן־שִׁשִּׁ֥ים שָׁנָ֖ה בְּלֶ֥דֶת אֹתָֽם׃

(20) Isaac was forty years old when he took to wife Rebekah, daughter of Bethuel the Aramean of Paddan-aram, sister of Laban the Aramean. (21) Isaac pleaded with GOD on behalf of his wife, because she was infertile; and GOD responded to his plea, and his wife Rebekah conceived. (22) But the children struggled in her womb, and she said, “If so, why do I exist?” She went to inquire of GOD, (23) and GOD answered her,
“Two nations are in your womb,Two separate peoples shall issue from your body;One people shall be mightier than the other,And the older shall serve the younger.”(24) When her time to give birth was at hand, there were twins in her womb. (25) The first one emerged red, like a hairy mantle all over; so they named וַיִּקְרְא֥וּ him Esau. (26) Then his brother emerged, holding on to the heel of Esau; so they named וַיִּקְרָ֥א him Jacob (Fox so they called his name: Yaakov/Heel-Holder.). Isaac was sixty years old when they were born.

לנכח אשתו. זֶה עוֹמֵד בְּזָוִית זוֹ וּמִתְפַּלֵּל וְזוֹ עוֹמֶדֶת בְּזָוִית זוֹ וּמִתְפַּלֶּלֶת:

לנכח אשתו FACING HIS WIFE — He stood in one corner and prayed whilst she stood in the other corner and prayed (Genesis Rabbah 63:5).

ויתרוצצו. ... דָּבָר אַחֵר מִתְרוֹצְצִים זֶה עִם זֶה וּמְרִיבִים בְּנַחֲלַת שְׁנֵי עוֹלָמוֹת.

ויתרצצו AND [THE CHILDREN] STRUGGLED — .. Another explanation is: they struggled with one another and quarreled as to how they should divide the two worlds as their inheritance (Yalkut Shimoni on Torah 111:2).

ויקרא שמו יעקב. הַקָּבָּ"ה; דָּ"אַ אָבִיו קָרָא לוֹ יַעֲקֹב עַל שֵׁם אֲחִיזַת הֶעָקֵב:

ויקרא שמו יעקב AND HE CALLED HIS NAME JACOB — Another explanation is: his father called him Jacob because he was grasping Esau’s heel.

(א) וַֽיְהִי֙ כִּֽי־זָקֵ֣ן יִצְחָ֔ק וַתִּכְהֶ֥יןָ עֵינָ֖יו מֵרְאֹ֑ת וַיִּקְרָ֞א אֶת־עֵשָׂ֣ו ׀ בְּנ֣וֹ הַגָּדֹ֗ל וַיֹּ֤אמֶר אֵלָיו֙ בְּנִ֔י וַיֹּ֥אמֶר אֵלָ֖יו הִנֵּֽנִי׃ (ב) וַיֹּ֕אמֶר הִנֵּה־נָ֖א זָקַ֑נְתִּי לֹ֥א יָדַ֖עְתִּי י֥וֹם מוֹתִֽי׃ (ג) וְעַתָּה֙ שָׂא־נָ֣א כֵלֶ֔יךָ תֶּלְיְךָ֖ וְקַשְׁתֶּ֑ךָ וְצֵא֙ הַשָּׂדֶ֔ה וְצ֥וּדָה לִּ֖י (צידה)[צָֽיִד]׃ (ד) וַעֲשֵׂה־לִ֨י מַטְעַמִּ֜ים כַּאֲשֶׁ֥ר אָהַ֛בְתִּי וְהָבִ֥יאָה לִּ֖י וְאֹכֵ֑לָה בַּעֲב֛וּר תְּבָרֶכְךָ֥ נַפְשִׁ֖י בְּטֶ֥רֶם אָמֽוּת׃ (ה) וְרִבְקָ֣ה שֹׁמַ֔עַת בְּדַבֵּ֣ר יִצְחָ֔ק אֶל־עֵשָׂ֖ו בְּנ֑וֹ וַיֵּ֤לֶךְ עֵשָׂו֙ הַשָּׂדֶ֔ה לָצ֥וּד צַ֖יִד לְהָבִֽיא׃ (ו) וְרִבְקָה֙ אָֽמְרָ֔ה אֶל־יַעֲקֹ֥ב בְּנָ֖הּ לֵאמֹ֑ר הִנֵּ֤ה שָׁמַ֙עְתִּי֙ אֶת־אָבִ֔יךָ מְדַבֵּ֛ר אֶל־עֵשָׂ֥ו אָחִ֖יךָ לֵאמֹֽר׃ (ז) הָבִ֨יאָה לִּ֥י צַ֛יִד וַעֲשֵׂה־לִ֥י מַטְעַמִּ֖ים וְאֹכֵ֑לָה וַאֲבָרֶכְכָ֛ה לִפְנֵ֥י יְהֹוָ֖ה לִפְנֵ֥י מוֹתִֽי׃ (ח) וְעַתָּ֥ה בְנִ֖י שְׁמַ֣ע בְּקֹלִ֑י לַאֲשֶׁ֥ר אֲנִ֖י מְצַוָּ֥ה אֹתָֽךְ׃ (ט) לֶךְ־נָא֙ אֶל־הַצֹּ֔אן וְקַֽח־לִ֣י מִשָּׁ֗ם שְׁנֵ֛י גְּדָיֵ֥י עִזִּ֖ים טֹבִ֑ים וְאֶֽעֱשֶׂ֨ה אֹתָ֧ם מַטְעַמִּ֛ים לְאָבִ֖יךָ כַּאֲשֶׁ֥ר אָהֵֽב׃ (י) וְהֵבֵאתָ֥ לְאָבִ֖יךָ וְאָכָ֑ל בַּעֲבֻ֛ר אֲשֶׁ֥ר יְבָרֶכְךָ֖ לִפְנֵ֥י מוֹתֽוֹ׃ (יא) וַיֹּ֣אמֶר יַעֲקֹ֔ב אֶל־רִבְקָ֖ה אִמּ֑וֹ הֵ֣ן עֵשָׂ֤ו אָחִי֙ אִ֣ישׁ שָׂעִ֔ר וְאָנֹכִ֖י אִ֥ישׁ חָלָֽק׃ (יב) אוּלַ֤י יְמֻשֵּׁ֙נִי֙ אָבִ֔י וְהָיִ֥יתִי בְעֵינָ֖יו כִּמְתַעְתֵּ֑עַ וְהֵבֵאתִ֥י עָלַ֛י קְלָלָ֖ה וְלֹ֥א בְרָכָֽה׃ (יג) וַתֹּ֤אמֶר לוֹ֙ אִמּ֔וֹ עָלַ֥י קִלְלָתְךָ֖ בְּנִ֑י אַ֛ךְ שְׁמַ֥ע בְּקֹלִ֖י וְלֵ֥ךְ קַֽח־לִֽי׃ (יד) וַיֵּ֙לֶךְ֙ וַיִּקַּ֔ח וַיָּבֵ֖א לְאִמּ֑וֹ וַתַּ֤עַשׂ אִמּוֹ֙ מַטְעַמִּ֔ים כַּאֲשֶׁ֖ר אָהֵ֥ב אָבִֽיו׃ (טו) וַתִּקַּ֣ח רִ֠בְקָ֠ה אֶת־בִּגְדֵ֨י עֵשָׂ֜ו בְּנָ֤הּ הַגָּדֹל֙ הַחֲמֻדֹ֔ת אֲשֶׁ֥ר אִתָּ֖הּ בַּבָּ֑יִת וַתַּלְבֵּ֥שׁ אֶֽת־יַעֲקֹ֖ב בְּנָ֥הּ הַקָּטָֽן׃ (טז) וְאֵ֗ת עֹרֹת֙ גְּדָיֵ֣י הָֽעִזִּ֔ים הִלְבִּ֖ישָׁה עַל־יָדָ֑יו וְעַ֖ל חֶלְקַ֥ת צַוָּארָֽיו׃ (יז) וַתִּתֵּ֧ן אֶת־הַמַּטְעַמִּ֛ים וְאֶת־הַלֶּ֖חֶם אֲשֶׁ֣ר עָשָׂ֑תָה בְּיַ֖ד יַעֲקֹ֥ב בְּנָֽהּ׃ (יח) וַיָּבֹ֥א אֶל־אָבִ֖יו וַיֹּ֣אמֶר אָבִ֑י וַיֹּ֣אמֶר הִנֶּ֔נִּי מִ֥י אַתָּ֖ה בְּנִֽי׃ (יט) וַיֹּ֨אמֶר יַעֲקֹ֜ב אֶל־אָבִ֗יו אָנֹכִי֙ עֵשָׂ֣ו בְּכֹרֶ֔ךָ עָשִׂ֕יתִי כַּאֲשֶׁ֥ר דִּבַּ֖רְתָּ אֵלָ֑י קֽוּם־נָ֣א שְׁבָ֗ה וְאׇכְלָה֙ מִצֵּידִ֔י בַּעֲב֖וּר תְּבָרְכַ֥נִּי נַפְשֶֽׁךָ׃ (כ) וַיֹּ֤אמֶר יִצְחָק֙ אֶל־בְּנ֔וֹ מַה־זֶּ֛ה מִהַ֥רְתָּ לִמְצֹ֖א בְּנִ֑י וַיֹּ֕אמֶר כִּ֥י הִקְרָ֛ה יְהֹוָ֥ה אֱלֹהֶ֖יךָ לְפָנָֽי׃ (כא) וַיֹּ֤אמֶר יִצְחָק֙ אֶֽל־יַעֲקֹ֔ב גְּשָׁה־נָּ֥א וַאֲמֻֽשְׁךָ֖ בְּנִ֑י הַֽאַתָּ֥ה זֶ֛ה בְּנִ֥י עֵשָׂ֖ו אִם־לֹֽא׃ (כב) וַיִּגַּ֧שׁ יַעֲקֹ֛ב אֶל־יִצְחָ֥ק אָבִ֖יו וַיְמֻשֵּׁ֑הוּ וַיֹּ֗אמֶר הַקֹּל֙ ק֣וֹל יַעֲקֹ֔ב וְהַיָּדַ֖יִם יְדֵ֥י עֵשָֽׂו׃ (כג) וְלֹ֣א הִכִּיר֔וֹ כִּֽי־הָי֣וּ יָדָ֗יו כִּידֵ֛י עֵשָׂ֥ו אָחִ֖יו שְׂעִרֹ֑ת וַֽיְבָרְכֵֽהוּ׃ (כד) וַיֹּ֕אמֶר אַתָּ֥ה זֶ֖ה בְּנִ֣י עֵשָׂ֑ו וַיֹּ֖אמֶר אָֽנִי׃ (כה) וַיֹּ֗אמֶר הַגִּ֤שָׁה לִּי֙ וְאֹֽכְלָה֙ מִצֵּ֣יד בְּנִ֔י לְמַ֥עַן תְּבָֽרֶכְךָ֖ נַפְשִׁ֑י וַיַּגֶּשׁ־לוֹ֙ וַיֹּאכַ֔ל וַיָּ֧בֵא ל֦וֹ יַ֖יִן וַיֵּֽשְׁתְּ׃ (כו) וַיֹּ֥אמֶר אֵלָ֖יו יִצְחָ֣ק אָבִ֑יו גְּשָׁה־נָּ֥א וּשְׁקָה־לִּ֖י בְּנִֽי׃ (כז) וַיִּגַּשׁ֙ וַיִּשַּׁק־ל֔וֹ וַיָּ֛רַח אֶת־רֵ֥יחַ בְּגָדָ֖יו וַֽיְבָרְכֵ֑הוּ וַיֹּ֗אמֶר רְאֵה֙ רֵ֣יחַ בְּנִ֔י כְּרֵ֣יחַ שָׂדֶ֔ה אֲשֶׁ֥ר בֵּרְכ֖וֹ יְהֹוָֽה׃ (כח) וְיִֽתֶּן־לְךָ֙ הָאֱלֹהִ֔ים מִטַּל֙ הַשָּׁמַ֔יִם וּמִשְׁמַנֵּ֖י הָאָ֑רֶץ וְרֹ֥ב דָּגָ֖ן וְתִירֹֽשׁ׃ (כט) יַֽעַבְד֣וּךָ עַמִּ֗ים (וישתחו)[וְיִֽשְׁתַּחֲו֤וּ] לְךָ֙ לְאֻמִּ֔ים הֱוֵ֤ה גְבִיר֙ לְאַחֶ֔יךָ וְיִשְׁתַּחֲו֥וּ לְךָ֖ בְּנֵ֣י אִמֶּ֑ךָ אֹרְרֶ֣יךָ אָר֔וּר וּֽמְבָרְכֶ֖יךָ בָּרֽוּךְ׃ (ל) וַיְהִ֗י כַּאֲשֶׁ֨ר כִּלָּ֣ה יִצְחָק֮ לְבָרֵ֣ךְ אֶֽת־יַעֲקֹב֒ וַיְהִ֗י אַ֣ךְ יָצֹ֤א יָצָא֙ יַעֲקֹ֔ב מֵאֵ֥ת פְּנֵ֖י יִצְחָ֣ק אָבִ֑יו וְעֵשָׂ֣ו אָחִ֔יו בָּ֖א מִצֵּידֽוֹ׃

(1) When Isaac was old and his eyes were too dim to see, he called his older son Esau and said to him, “My son.” He answered, “Here I am.” (2) And he said, “I am old now, and I do not know how soon I may die. (3) Take your gear, your quiver and bow, and go out into the open and hunt me some game. (4) Then prepare a dish for me such as I like, and bring it to me to eat, so that I may give you my innermost blessing before I die.” (5) Rebekah had been listening as Isaac spoke to his son Esau. When Esau had gone out into the open to hunt game to bring home, (6) Rebekah said to her son Jacob, “I overheard your father speaking to your brother Esau, saying, (7) ‘Bring me some game and prepare a dish for me to eat, that I may bless you, with GOD’s approval, before I die.’ (8) Now, my son, listen carefully as I instruct you. (9) Go to the flock and fetch me two choice kids, and I will make of them a dish for your father, such as he likes. (10) Then take it to your father to eat, in order that he may bless you before he dies.” (11) Jacob answered his mother Rebekah, “But my brother Esau is a hairy man and I’m a smooth-skinned one. (12) If my father touches me, I shall appear to him as a trickster and bring upon myself a curse, not a blessing.” (13) But his mother said to him, “Your curse, my son, be upon me! Just do as I say and go fetch them for me.” (14) He got them and brought them to his mother, and his mother prepared a dish such as his father liked. (15) Rebekah then took the best clothes of her older son Esau, which were there in the house, and had her younger son Jacob put them on; (16) and she covered his hands and the hairless part of his neck with the skins of the kids. (17) Then she put in the hands of her son Jacob the dish and the bread that she had prepared. (18) He went to his father and said, “Father.” And he said, “Yes, which of my sons are you?” (19) Jacob said to his father, “I am Esau, your first-born; I have done as you told me. Pray sit up and eat of my game, that you may give me your innermost blessing.” (20) Isaac said to his son, “How did you succeed so quickly, my son?” And he said, “Because the ETERNAL your God granted me good fortune.” (21) Isaac said to Jacob, “Come closer that I may feel you, my son—whether you are really my son Esau or not.” (22) So Jacob drew close to his father Isaac, who felt him and wondered, “The voice is the voice of Jacob, yet the hands are the hands of Esau.” (23) He did not recognize him, because his hands were hairy like those of his brother Esau; and so he blessed him. (24) He asked, “Are you really my son Esau?” And when he said, “I am,” (25) he said, “Serve me and let me eat of my son’s game that I may give you my innermost blessing.” So he served him and he ate, and he brought him wine and he drank. (26) Then his father Isaac said to him, “Come close and kiss me, my son”; (27) and he went up and kissed him. And he smelled his clothes and he blessed him, saying, “Ah, the smell of my son is like the smell of the fields that GOD has blessed. (28)“May God give youOf the dew of heaven and the fat of the earth,Abundance of new grain and wine.(29)Let peoples serve you,And nations bow to you;Be master over your brothers,And let your mother’s sons bow to you.Cursed be they who curse you,Blessed they who bless you.”(30) No sooner had Jacob left the presence of his father Isaac—after Isaac had finished blessing Jacob—than his brother Esau came back from his hunt.

(מו) וַתֹּ֤אמֶר רִבְקָה֙ אֶל־יִצְחָ֔ק קַ֣צְתִּי בְחַיַּ֔י מִפְּנֵ֖י בְּנ֣וֹת חֵ֑ת אִם־לֹקֵ֣חַ יַ֠עֲקֹ֠ב אִשָּׁ֨ה מִבְּנֽוֹת־חֵ֤ת כָּאֵ֙לֶּה֙ מִבְּנ֣וֹת הָאָ֔רֶץ לָ֥מָּה לִּ֖י חַיִּֽים׃

(46) Rebekah said to Isaac, “I am disgusted with my life because of the Hittite women. If Jacob marries a Hittite woman like these, from among the native women, what good will life be to me?”

(א) וַיִּקְרָ֥א יִצְחָ֛ק אֶֽל־יַעֲקֹ֖ב וַיְבָ֣רֶךְ אֹת֑וֹ וַיְצַוֵּ֙הוּ֙ וַיֹּ֣אמֶר ל֔וֹ לֹֽא־תִקַּ֥ח אִשָּׁ֖ה מִבְּנ֥וֹת כְּנָֽעַן׃

(1) So Isaac sent for Jacob and blessed him. He instructed him, saying, “You shall not take a wife from among the Canaanite women.

(ט) וַתֵּ֨רֶא שָׂרָ֜ה אֶֽת־בֶּן־הָגָ֧ר הַמִּצְרִ֛ית אֲשֶׁר־יָלְדָ֥ה לְאַבְרָהָ֖ם מְצַחֵֽק׃ (י) וַתֹּ֙אמֶר֙ לְאַבְרָהָ֔ם גָּרֵ֛שׁ הָאָמָ֥ה הַזֹּ֖את וְאֶת־בְּנָ֑הּ כִּ֣י לֹ֤א יִירַשׁ֙ בֶּן־הָאָמָ֣ה הַזֹּ֔את עִם־בְּנִ֖י עִם־יִצְחָֽק׃ (יא)וַיֵּ֧רַע הַדָּבָ֛ר מְאֹ֖ד בְּעֵינֵ֣י אַבְרָהָ֑ם עַ֖ל אוֹדֹ֥ת בְּנֽוֹ׃ (יב) וַיֹּ֨אמֶר אֱלֹהִ֜ים אֶל־אַבְרָהָ֗ם אַל־יֵרַ֤ע בְּעֵינֶ֙יךָ֙ עַל־הַנַּ֣עַר וְעַל־אֲמָתֶ֔ךָ כֹּל֩ אֲשֶׁ֨ר תֹּאמַ֥ר אֵלֶ֛יךָ שָׂרָ֖ה שְׁמַ֣ע בְּקֹלָ֑הּ כִּ֣י בְיִצְחָ֔ק יִקָּרֵ֥א לְךָ֖ זָֽרַע׃ (יג) וְגַ֥ם אֶת־בֶּן־הָאָמָ֖ה לְג֣וֹי אֲשִׂימֶ֑נּוּ כִּ֥י זַרְעֲךָ֖ הֽוּא׃

(9) Sarah saw the son whom Hagar the Egyptian had borne to Abraham playing. (10) She said to Abraham, “Cast out that slave-woman and her son, for the son of that slave shall not share in the inheritance with my son Isaac.” (11) The matter distressed Abraham greatly, for it concerned a son of his. (12) But God said to Abraham, “Do not be distressed over the boy or your slave; whatever Sarah tells you, do as she says, for it is through Isaac that offspring shall be continued for you. (13) As for the son of the slave-woman, I will make a nation of him, too, for he is your seed.”

(יח) ויאהב אברהם את יעקב, ויצחק אוהב את עשו:

(יט) וירא אברהם את מעשה עשו, וידע כי ביעקב יקרא לו שם וזרע:

(כ) ויקרא לרבקה ויצו אותה על דבר יעקב, בראותו כי גם היא אוהבת את יעקב מעשו:

(18) And Abraham loved Jacob, but Isaac loved Esau.

(19) And Abraham saw the deeds of Esau, and he knew that in Jacob should his name and seed be called;

(20) and he called Rebecca and gave commandment regarding Jacob, for he knew that she (too) loved Jacob much more than Esau.

In Genesis, marital disagreement is one of the ways the covenant advances. Sarah and Rebekah are not merely mothers with preferences about their sons. They are women who perceive where the future lies, and who act—sometimes against their husbands’ judgment—to bring that future about.

(כט) וַיֹּ֗אמֶר לֹ֤א יַעֲקֹב֙ יֵאָמֵ֥ר עוֹד֙ שִׁמְךָ֔ כִּ֖י אִם־יִשְׂרָאֵ֑ל כִּֽי־שָׂרִ֧יתָ עִם־אֱלֹהִ֛ים וְעִם־אֲנָשִׁ֖ים וַתּוּכָֽל׃

(29) Said he, “Your name shall no longer be Jacob, but Israel, for you have striven with beings divine and human, and have prevailed.”

(א)וַיֹּאמֶר לֹא יַעֲקֹב יֵאָמֵר עוֹד שִׁמְךָ כִּי אִם יִשְׂרָאֵל. .. וּבְאָמְרוֹ ״כִּי שָׂרִיתָ עִם אֱלֹהִים״ עָקַר שֵׁם יַעֲקֹב מִמֶּנּוּ, כִּי יַעֲקֹב מוֹרֶה עַל ״עָקֹב הַלֵּב מִכֹּל וְאָנֻשׁ הוּא״ (ירמיה יז:ט), וְיִשְׂרָאֵל לְשׁוֹן מִישׁוֹר, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב לֶעָתִיד (ישעיה מ:ד) ״וְהָיָה הֶעָקֹב לְמִישׁוֹר״. וְלֹא מִישׁוֹר הַנִּרְאֶה יָשָׁר בְּעֵינֵי הַבְּרִיּוֹת כִּי אִם הַנִּרְאֶה יָשָׁר בְּעֵינֵי אֱלֹהִים וְאָדָם, עַל כֵּן אָמַר ״כִּי שָׂרִיתָ עִם אֱלֹהִים וְעִם אֲנָשִׁים״, כִּי עַל יְדֵי כֹּשֶׁר מִפְעָלְךָ תִּהְיֶה שַׂר וְנָגִיד עִם אֱלֹהִים וַאֲנָשִׁים וַתּוּכָל. וְזֶהוּ יִשְׂרָאֵל – יָשָׁר אֵל, מִישׁוֹר הַנִּרְאֶה גַּם בְּעֵינֵי הָאֵל יִתְבָּרַךְ.

(1)“And he said, ‘Your name shall no longer be called Jacob, but rather Israel.’” ... And in saying for you have striven with God, he uprooted the name Jacob from him, because “Jacob” [Yaakov] indicates the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked (Jeremiah 17:9), while “Israel” denotes straightness, as it is written regarding the future: And the crooked shall be made straight(Isaiah 40:4). This is not merely straightness as it appears in the eyes of people, but rather straightness as it appears in the eyes of both God and man. Therefore, he said for you have striven with God and with men, because through the virtue of your actions you will be a prince and leader with both God and men, and you will prevail. This is the meaning of “Israel” — “yashar El” — straightness that is apparent even in the eyes of the blessed God.

(א)שִׁמְךָ יַעֲקֹב לֹא יִקָּרֵא שִׁמְךָ עוֹד יַעֲקֹב. ... (ב) וְעַל צַד הָרֶמֶז, יֵשׁ מָקוֹם אִתִּי לְפָרֵשׁ שְׁנֵי שְׁמוֹתָיו שֶׁל יַעֲקֹב עַל שֵׁם שְׁנֵי הַגְּאוּלוֹת, יַעַן כִּי מָצִינוּ לְרַבּוֹתֵינוּ זִכְרוֹנָם לִבְרָכָה (ירמיהו כג:ז-ח) לֹא שֶׁתֵּעָקֵר יְצִיאַת מִצְרַיִם לְגַמְרֵי, אֶלָּא שֶׁזְּכִירַת נִסֵּי יְצִיאַת מִצְרַיִם יִהְיוּ טָפֵל, .... לְפִי שֶׁבִּגְאוּלָה שֶׁל מִצְרַיִם לֹא הָיָה זְכוּתָם מַסְפִּיק לְהוֹצִיאָם בְּיָד רָמָה, וְהֻצְרְכוּ לֵילֵךְ בְּעָקְבָה וּרְמִיָּה, כִּי אָמְרוּ ״נֵלְכָה לִזְבֹּחַ לַה׳ אֱלֹהֵינוּ״ (שמות ה:ג), וְכָל בּוֹרֵחַ הוֹלֵךְ בְּחִפָּזוֹן, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב (שמות יב:יא) ״וַאֲכַלְתֶּם אֹתוֹ בְּחִפָּזוֹן״....

אֲבָל בִּגְאֻלָּה אַחֲרוֹנָה, אַחַר שֶׁנִּתְמָרֵק הֶעָוֹן מִכָּל וָכֹל בְּאֹרֶךְ גָּלוּת הַחֵל הַזֶּה, יַסְפִּיק זְכוּתָם שֶׁיֵּצְאוּ בְּיָד רָמָה בְּמִישׁוֹר וְלֹא בְּעָקְבָה וְלֹא בְּחִפָּזוֹן, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב (ישעיהו נב יב) כִּי לֹא בְחִפָּזוֹן תֵּצֵאוּ וּבִמְנוּסָה לֹא תֵלֵכוּן, זֶהוּ שֶׁהוּא אוֹמֵר ״וְהָיָה הֶעָקֹב לְמִישׁוֹר״. וּמִכָּל מָקוֹם לֹא יֵעָקֵר שֵׁם יַעֲקֹב לְגַמְרֵי, וְכֵן לֹא תֵּעָקֵר זִכְרוֹן יְצִיאַת מִצְרַיִם לְגַמְרֵי, כְּדֵי שֶׁיִּזְכְּרוּ שְׁנֵי הַגְּאֻלּוֹת יַחַד וְיֵדְעוּ וְיַכִּירוּ הַהֶבְדֵּל שֶׁבֵּינֵיהֶם אֲשֶׁר גָּרַם הַחֵטְא, כִּי בְּלִי סָפֵק שֶׁהָיוּ בְּמִצְרַיִם רָעִים וְחַטָּאִים כַּמְבֹאָר בִּנְבוּאַת יְחֶזְקֵאל (יחזקאל כ ח) אֲשֶׁר מִזֶּה הַצַּד רָאוּי שֶׁתִּהְיֶה טָפֵל, וְכֵן שֵׁם יַעֲקֹב לֹא נֶעֱקַר לְגַמְרֵי מִזֶּה הַטַּעַם. ...

(1)“Your name is Jacob, your name shall no longer be called Jacob.” ...(2)And by way of allusion, I have a way to explain Jacob’s two names in reference to the two redemptions, since we find in our Rabbis’ teachings that the Exodus from Egypt will not be completely uprooted, but rather the remembrance of the miracles of the Exodus will become secondary, ... So why will the miracles of Egypt become secondary? Because during the redemption from Egypt, their merit was not sufficient to bring them out with an upraised hand, and they needed to proceed with cunning and deception, saying “Let us go sacrifice to the Lord our God.” And every fugitive goes in haste, as it is written you shall eat it in haste (Exodus 12:11). ...

However, in the final redemption, after the sin has been completely purged through the length of this current exile, their merit will be sufficient for them to depart with an upraised hand, on a straight path rather than with cunning/deception [reference to Jacob’s name’s meaning] and not in haste, as it is written For you shall not go out in haste, nor shall you depart in flight (Isaiah 52:14). This is what is meant by “the crooked shall become straight.” Nevertheless, the name Jacob will not be completely uprooted, and similarly, the memory of the Exodus from Egypt will not be completely uprooted, so that both redemptions will be remembered together, ...

Over time, a person who begins without authority or who leads
beyond whatever authority she has may have to construct,
strengthen, and sometimes broaden her base of informal authority
in order to get more leverage. She may find that an initial, rebellious
leadership action puts her in an informal authority position that
requires trust, respect, and moral force in order to sustain progress.
Such were the beginnings of King, Gandhi, and Sanger. An emerging
leader may need a base from which to speak to hard issues without
being ignored or cast out altogether. Furthermore, to involve the
relevant factions in the community, she may need people across
boundaries to believe that she represents something significant, that
she embodies a perspective that merits attention. When that happens,
she has to respect both the resources and constraints that come with
authority, formally from her own group, and informally from beyond.
Just as leading with authority requires protecting voices of
dissent, a leader without authority will have to "take counsel" from
her adversaries, incorporating in her strategy whatever wisdom of
theirs connects to her central thesis.
As she seeks informal authority from those across organizational
or factional boundaries, she has to place her cause in the context of
the values of her opposition. In addition, she may have to learn from her antagonists in order to correct for the possible narrowness of her
own views. She is not just teaching; she is being taught.
Thus, King, Stanton, Anthony, Gandhi, and Sanger placed and came to understand their struggles in the context of the day's dominant values and
concerns. King spoke of equality and freedom, and learned the workings
of the legal, political, and economic systems controlled by white
society in building a national movement to combat racism. Stanton
and Anthony both invoked the Declaration of Independence in demanding
equal rights for women, and assimilated the militance,
defiance, and toughness of male society in building a tradition for
women to defend themselves against domination. Gandhi spoke of
liberty and self-determination, and discovered techniques for invoking
the force and brutality of the British Army to weaken Britain's
stronghold on India. Sanger put birth control in the setting of poverty,
unchecked population growth, and family health, and absorbed
politics, contraceptive medicine, and law in advancing what seemed
to her obvious birth-control rights requiring no legal or medical
justification. pp 186-187 Leadership Without Easy Answers, Ronald A. Heifetz
* Perhaps modern Israel brings this story to a tipping point. Sarah and Rebekah show us women who see what the future requires, yet lack the authority to make it happen directly. They lead from the margins, using the insight and tools available to them. Rebekah’s strategy may be unsettling, but it reminds us that leadership without authority can take forms that would never be chosen by someone free to act openly.
For much of Jewish history, our people, too, lacked the authority to shape their own fate. Today, Israel is a sovereign state, taking its place among the nations. Yet it remains under pressure to improvise, think outside the box, and break convention in order to survive. It is contituted by what a former president of Israel called Tribes, many of which see themselves as minorities without authority. The transition from powerlessness to statehood is not simple: the habits of leadership from the margins persist even as the responsibilities of sovereignty grow.
The question Sarah and Rebekah leave us is not only how those without authority can make change, but what happens when the people who learned to lead from the margins finally have authority of their own.